perseverance

toujours suspendu en l’air

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I’m still here, in mid-air, which is uncannily like a depth, it turns out. In the wrestling match between maintaining a normal pace and slowing down, slowing down has won. And yet now I’m here, I feel strangely at home. I don’t feel the fret of missing out, I’m no longer disappointed, I’m kind of content, and curious, because at other points in my life when I have found myself in this imposed suspension, often something very deep has been at work, beyond my thoughts, words, understanding or control.

So it’s a little bit like I’ve set up tent here, in mid-air, and now find myself delighted. It’s so peculiar; how can I resist it so much and then turn out to be glad? Sometimes I feel like I don’t know myself at all; I can sometimes so little predict my true feelings about things that are in prospect.

I am still playing the piano (although today I didn’t because the neighbour was using the apartment) and writing, but I have seemingly slipped into a complete harmony with quietness and ordinary chores. Small unexciting things are getting done and I’m not feeling lonesome or deprived.

And the deeper stillness means that I’m more aware of the rumblings of movements in unknown places, and this awareness increases my patience because instead of fearing nothing, I can feel something. And what is a creative process for if not to prepare a space to welcome and embrace that?

perseverance: suspendu en l’air

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There I was all in persevering mode with happenstances aplenty and ferocious efforts and all of a sudden (well actually it snuck up on me):

Heat, and a cough.

It sounds so prosaic. Probably it’s meant.

All my wishes, intendings and momentum are scrambled. I am slowed down in a kind of ancient and insistent pace. I can’t do the things I wish to do; I can’t go to the places I want to go. It’s the first summery weather here for weeks and I can’t cycle to the seaside or bear to lie on a hot rock even if I got there. I’m in a continual internal argument with Little Miss High Achiever who seemingly cannot help but persist in believing that concrete reality is for losers and wishes should triumph. (And I should have compassion on her because indeed the feeling of disappointment is intolerably near to defeat).

I am well enough to do this and that (here I am after all, and I played the piano although the piece sounds slightly less rippling punctuated by a rasping cough). But it is as if everything has been suspended in mid air, that a certain kind of time has stopped and I’ve arrived into a different one, chronology displaced by eternity.

Oh the wriggling and squirming before this kind surrender.

But yes, I let go of everything, I choose to let the moment of suspendu en l’air be a kind of grace to me, to whatever is going on. (And somehow it is always a consolation to experience the exquisite perfection of the phase in French).

Something beyond me is at work, and in accepting this I find a renewal of hope.

feeding perseverance

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Today there was a certain new joy in persevering with the rhythm that will sustain the studio inside.

Alongside other chores, yesterday I had two calls with old friends, and although in a way both of them were need and I was helping (listening, which I am not always good at), the quality of the (re)connection – (‘re’, because we have been so little in contact in the ferocious wildness of the last two years) was very deep. They’ve both known me a long time, and although there is a certain element of them knowing a me that I no longer am, there is also a knowing of a me that I deeply am and will always carry with me, that newer friends will never truly know.

Then I cycled to the seaside on my bike, taking with the picnic food that my mother always makes for my family’s seaside trips, simplicity itself yet with the soul of a thousand small memories.

It is not totally the case that I have cleverly made a joy happen; it’s partly the sheer fact that after persevering with so many chores and so much work, some of them are now done. There is a loosening into the necessary tasks of the day. I am at liberty to untangle thing more, to create more freedom. I note to myself the importance of not accidentally accumulating more.

Nonetheless, I am aware of a kind of deeper nourishment. My soul is resting. My perseverance can come from a deeper place, from the deep heart rather than from a certain kind of drier (yet for a time necessary) intention.

In the middle of my life I found myself in a beautiful garden. I’ve longed for one, and although I expected it to be in a more conventional house and of a more private nature, the one I have tumbled into is a continuing wonder; a collective small garden converted from a tiny park, in the middle of the city, with small allotment boxes with the growings of strangers who are becoming known, and a communal, collectively tended vegetable garden from which I can at will pick spinach, herbs, beans, potatoes.

I feed my perseverance by putting myself in the path of beauty and trying not to neglect the wondrousness of existence, by a collaboration.